Things Women Should Know Before Marriage

Before marriage, women should understand their financial independence, personal goals, values, and emotional readiness. It is equally important to openly discuss finances, children, expectations, and future plans with the life partner, understand the partner’s family and culture, focus on mental health, self-confidence, and life skills, and seek pre-marital counselling if needed. All these aspects together form a strong foundation for a healthy and happy married life.

In Tamil Matrimony (Varan Thedal – Bride Search), a woman’s awareness, clarity, and confidence play a major role in long-term marital happiness.

Self-Awareness (Thannai Patri Therindhukolluthal)

Values & Life Goals (Mathippugal & Ilakkugal)

Before marriage, clearly understand:

• Your personal values and beliefs
• Long-term life and career goals
• What truly matters to you in marriage

Self-Confidence (Thannambikkai)

Build confidence by:

• Traveling independently
• Pursuing hobbies and interests
• Making your own decisions

Mental Health (Mananalam)

Mental well-being is essential:

• Understand how you handle stress
• Learn healthy emotional coping methods
• Don’t hesitate to seek support when needed

Understanding Your Partner (Thunaiyai Purindhukolluthal)

Open Communication (Thirandha Uraiyadal)

Have open discussions about:

• Finances and money habits
• Children and parenting views
• Family responsibilities
• Future plans and expectations

Respect & Equality (Mariyadhai & Samathuvam)

Choose a partner who:

• Respects you as an equal
• Values your opinions and emotions
• Supports your growth and independence

Family & Culture (Kudumbam & Kalacharam)

Understand:

• His family structure and values
• Cultural practices and traditions
• Expectations from daughter-in-law

Marriage Preparation (Thirumana Thayarippu)

Financial Independence (Nidhi Sudhandhiram)

Before marriage:

• Be financially aware and independent
• Understand budgeting, saving, and expenses
• Have clarity about joint or separate finances

Life Skills (Vazhkai Thiran)

Develop basic life skills such as cooking, household management, budget planning, and time management.

Pre-Marital Counselling (Munkoottiya Aalosanai)

Pre-marital counselling helps improve communication, understand expectations, and prevent future conflicts.

Strengthening the Relationship (Uravai Valuppaduthuthal)

Communication (Thodarbu)

• Speak openly about needs and concerns
• Never feel shy to express discomfort

Respect & Love (Mariyadhai & Anbu)

• Respect your husband and his parents
• Express love and affection daily

Handling Conflicts (Sikkalgalai Samalithal)

• Learn to resolve conflicts calmly
• Avoid suppressing emotions
• Focus on solutions, not blame

General Advice for Women Before Marriage

• Marriage requires continuous effort and care
• Forgiveness strengthens relationships
• Set life priorities wisely: God → Spouse → Children (if any)